Do you wish you never pulled that very first hair or picked that very first blemish? No one wants to be afflicted with a BFRB that buries us in shame and makes us want to run away and hide. But wishing something away isn’t going to send it away. It’s your choice to actively pursue change.
One way to do that is to take our hair pulling, skin picking or nail biting difficulty and flip it on it’s head to find the good in it.
This good may be meeting your best friend at the annual TLC BFRB Conference, or deciding to become a psychologist, or starting a venture, like HabitAware, that can help others.
For me, I realized that If I didn’t have a BFRB, I would never have found Keen, or the work that I love. And I would never have met YOU. Sure, I wish that I didn’t grow up with my hair pulling secret. But, if I didn’t have a BFRB, then I wouldn’t be who I am today, and I really like who I am.
For Allie, in our Keen family, she found the good by becoming a voice for the BFRB community.
What good can you find?
Are YOU ready to take on this challenge?
Here’s how you do it:
Instead of asking “Why did I get this BFRB?” in a “why me?” woeful sort of way,
ask yourself, “Why did I get this BFRB?” in a “what good can come from this?” contemplative sort of way.
Do you see the subtle difference in emphasis? Give it a try!
You might think your trichotillomania or dermatillomania is a curse.
But, can you find just ONE good thing from this difficult journey?
Give it some thought & leave a comment below to share what you’ve reflected on. I’d love to know what is good in your life.
Ellen & the HabitAware team