Conquering with Keen -

Conquering with Keen - "S" finds Self Love & Confidence

September 18, 2019

S. is a 47-year-old living in Florida and has been struggling with Trichotillomania for 32 years.  This is how she’s Conquering with Keen, in her own words.

Trichotillomania, a "Dirty Little Secret"

My Body-Focused Repetitive Behavior (BFRB) is hair pulling, otherwise known as Trichotillomania. It started at age 15. Initially I pulled out my eyebrows and eyelashes and then it escalated to my scalp. Having no eyebrows and lashes was very noticeable to others and I was made fun of, even by strangers. But for me it was no longer noticeable when I looked in the mirror. I was in total denial but I was also young and headstrong. When I began pulling hair from my scalp, it felt like my dirty little secret and for many years I honestly believed nobody would ever notice.

The years went by and once I entered the workforce, there would be small piles of hair I had pulled in the trash.  It was common to get busted by my co-workers mid-pull but I played it cool, like I had an itch or my hair was in the way.

Before Keen

My personal life was another story. Hair piles were scattered all over the rug on the driver’s side of my car. There were piles of hair on the sofa, coffee table and rugs, which tangled around my toes when walking barefoot. I was excited to get home after a long day for quality time with "my secret.”

Keeping this secret under wraps was hard work.

Over time my self-confidence dipped further and further. I was out of control and no therapist or Google searches could help stop my hair pulling. I got insane satisfaction from the hunt of that one perfect strand of hair and the pull that was slightly painful but well worth the discomfort especially if it was accompanied by its root. I realized I wasn't having any fun in my personal life. The spontaneity was gone. Keeping this secret under wraps was hard work.

The Search for a Hair Pulling Solution

I continually looked for a hair pulling solution. One of the many tactics I tried as a replacement strategy was digging my finger nail into my cuticles each time I pulled. It was a disaster so I began researching other concepts. And that’s when I found Keen by HabitAware, the awareness bracelet for hair pulling, skin picking and nail biting.

...the vibration is a gentle reminder that Keen is looking out for me.

Keen took a few tweaks to train properly, mostly because my wrist motion was too large and this caused Keen to constantly vibrate. After better training and focusing on a smaller gesture, the false vibrations subsided and Keen started to help. Now when I feel Keen's vibration, I breathe into it because the vibration is a gentle reminder that Keen is looking out for me. I observe my trigger and focus more on rewarding myself with praise and self love for getting past the desire to pull rather than shaming myself like I did in the past.

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Creating Awareness and Self-Love

Since I started using Keen I've definitely grown up and through this process I show up for myself more with loving kindness. I am a huge advocate of yoga and meditation. It really creates awareness within my body and also calms away my nervous energy that can contribute to my hair pulling.

Accepting my flaws and beauty has been paramount in the healing process.

A lot of my issues were caused by my lack of self-love. I've felt I didn't deserve it and wasn't worthy of it and instead said horrible sh*tty things to myself. Also, I've had such a difficult time keeping promises to myself. It was an unreal breakthrough when I acknowledged it! Accepting my flaws and beauty has been paramount in the healing process. It's a daily process that I'm now committed to, thanks to Keen. There are times when I still pull my hair but I no longer go down the rabbit hole with it. Instead I'll lovingly massage my scalp in the places I want to pull.

 

I'd absolutely recommend Keen to others who struggle with Trichotillomania, Dermatillomania (skin picking) or nail biting. One piece of advice is that when you start using Keen, be sure to focus on a small specific area during training or else the device will vibrate constantly. If you're a nervous person, keep the vibration on a lower setting so you aren't getting startled often.

After Keen

And remember that you have to be willing to do the work to change the habit. Keen isn't a magic pill that will transform a habit that's taken years to master. Show up for yourself, YOU ARE WORTH IT. Give yourself the gifts of confidence, joy and a social life - And a Keen, if you are ready to change!

You definitely are worth it, S.! Keep showing up for yourself with that loving kindness! Thank you for sharing your story with our Keen Family!
wishing you love, strength & awareness,
 

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